Facts About Male Insecurity And Jealousy

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Facts About Male Insecurity And Jealousy

You finally landed the girl of your dreams. She's beautiful, smart and sexy. She is everything that you've ever wanted in a woman. Every time you both go out, you notice all the guys checking her out. In turn, you hold her closely in a protective manner and send dirty looks to the gawkers. You watch her every move and feel a hint of jealousy and insecurity at times when it is not warranted. You constantly call to check up on her and then count the seconds before she returns your call. You feel extremely paranoid when she goes out with girlfriends or co-workers. You instantly feel rage when she looks at another guy, however innocent it may be.

You feel consumed by your insecurities, directing your energy towards over protectiveness and jealousy instead. You try to buy her time and attention by buying her gifts, dinners and whisking her away on vacations. You also prefer to spend your time with her at home and not out in public for fear of her looking at other men. You use possess and isolate tactics on her.

So where does all this jealousy and insecurity come from?

You may have had some really bad experiences before regarding loyalty and relationships and you don't want this to happen to you again. You intensely pledge your guarantee that she is the only one in your life. Male insecurity has been proven to be directly connected with a deficiency in the size of the male member. Many men are bothered by their current penis size and constantly look down on themselves. This definitely explains the thriving penis enlargement industry. Other reasons include money and resources. Many guys feel disdain and often envy towards other men who are better off than themselves. Having more money means you could probably buy your girl bigger and better gifts, that you think makes you highly desirable and attractive.

All men, just like women, need to be liked and loved. They want to be adored, respected and esteemed. Men want to feel important and special to someone.

So How Would You Fix This?

You need to take time and do a self-assessment. Get new clothes, hairstyle and learn new things. Get a membership at a gym and start shedding those pounds or toning your body. More importantly, is the measure of trust and loyalty that you and your girl have for each other. Do not let your insecurities and jealousy cloud your judgment and ruin your relationship. Treat your girl with the utmost respect and start trusting her more. She is with you isn't she?

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Numerology - Life Challenge Number

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In Numerology, numerologists use 3 individual numbers to represent the life challenges. These numbers interpretations represent the obstacles, hurdles and difficulties that you will face during certain phases of your life.

Numerology - Life Challenge Number

The First Number is the Early Challenge Number. It represents the difficulties you may face in the first 28 years of your life.

The Second Number is the Middle Challenge Number. It represents the difficulties may face in the second 28 years of your life.

The Third Number is the Main Challenge Number. It emphasizes the difficulties that you may face in the latter part of your life. The Main Challenge Number also represents the chronic obstacles that you face your entire life.

The Main Challenge Number is said to be the most dominant of all the Challenge Numbers. It takes priority over the other 2 numbers because it represents obstacles that may come from within you. It is known as "the devil" that you may find yourself fighting with your entire life. It is that question that burned inside you that you hope you will have answered before you die.

The Early Challenge Number is less influential. It may represent problems that are more situational or episodic problems. It indicates problems that can be due to circumstances or your parents. These problems usually appears as the child matures and enters the Middle Years of their Life Cycle.

The Middle Challenge Number also a number that depends on the situation and usually represents the hardship of the people around you. It can also represent behavioral problems and problems that are beyond your control.

Now to calculate your Challenge Numbers, first you reduce your day, month and year; your Life Path Number, down to a single digit. To calculate Your Challenge Number correctly you must reduce all numbers to a single digit, even master number 11 & 22.

For Example my Birthday is 4-14-1973

Month: 4

Day: 1+5=6

Year: 1+9+7+3-20 2+0=2

Calculating your Challenge Numbers is different then any others in Numerology, in this calculation you DO NOT want to total you day, month, and year numbers. You want to treat them eash as their own number.

To calculate your Early Life Challenge Number subtract your month number & your day from each other, the difference is your Early Challenge Number.

In my case, my month is 4 and my day is 6

6-4=2

My Early Challenge Number would be a 2.

Next your are going to calculate your Middle Challenge Number, to do this find the difference between your day & year numbers.

In my case, my day is 6 and my year is 2

6-2=4

My Middle Challenge Number would be a 4.

Don't think you did something wrong if you get a 0 as your result for this calculation. In this particular calculation is rare but it is possible. There is an interpretation for this rare number.

And finally to get you Main Challenge Number you are going to subtract your Early Life Challenge Number from your Middle Life Challenge Number.

So mine would be, 4-2=2

My Main Life Challenge Number would be a 2.

If you end up with the same number more then once, as in my case, it could mean that it has doubly the impact in your life.

If you Early Challenge Number and your Middle Challenge Number are the same then it could mean that your childhood problems may dominate all of your years. It may also mean that some of the problems you have faced were beyond your control.

If your Middle Challenge Number is the same as your Main Challenge Number it could mean that most of your problems were made as an adult. When you read the interpretation of that number well give you clues as to when you are your own worst enemy.

If all three numbers are the same then it is safe to say that your stars are trying to make you learn a lesson in life by causing problems to arise where ever you go.

Here are the interpretations for your Life Challenge Numbers. The same interpretations are used for Early, Middle & Main Life Challenge Numbers.

Life Challenge Number 0

People with a challenge Number 0 may feel in general like
they are being confronted with difficulties that seem to be
relentless and coming from all directions. Usually people who
are zeros are very sophisticated spiritually and thought to
possess the abilities of all the other numbers. However they
have problem making definitive decisions and sticking with
them. In early life this can manifest as a difficult or
abusive childhood. In adult life you may overcome great
obstacles to succeed.

Life Challenge Number 1

People with a life challenge Number 1 may feel as if every
dream and ambition that they have is being thwarted by unfair
circumstances. Bitterness, defensiveness and blaming others
may be a chronic problem.
Usually this is due to being too pushy or aggressive. Even if
you are not unreliable or unpredictable, others may perceive
you as so. A gentler touch plus a well focused, methodical plan
can help you achieve your aims. You self-sabotage by plunging
ahead blindly.

Life Number Challenge Number 2

The challenges presented for a number two are oversensitivity
and a tendency towards self-centeredness. It may be difficult
for you to realize that you are not the center of the
universe. In your early years your lack of ambition, status
consciousness and need for approval from others may cause you
to have a poor self image. In adult life twos are very prone
to codependency, addiction and troubled relationships if they
cannot learn to let go of their resentments and blame.

Life Challenge Number 3

This represents a period in your life when you might find it
hard to focus either because of emotional or psychological
disturbances or because of boredom. Your attentions may be
scattered and you might also suffer from shyness. You may
have a great imagination or talent but have difficulty
expressing it. In childhood this can result in frustration
and introversion. In your adult years you may come off as too
arrogant or eccentric to be taken seriously by anyone.

Life Challenge Number 4

This number often suggests a difficulty with finding
employment or a gratifying the career. You just may not feel
like working or suffer from a disorder or disability that
prevents you from working. In your early years your
opportunities to learn may have been truncated by physical or
financial circumstances. In adulthood you may become an
irresponsible or impractical individual who can't be trusted.

Life Challenge Number 5

This number usually defines a character that is unreasonable,
indecisive and easily irritated. You have an impulsive nature
and often run into trouble because you are unable to see the
consequences of your actions beforehand. In your early years this may result in an incomplete education or a number of
false starts in career. As adult your challenges manifest as
an inability to make decisions are acting in an overly
emotional as opposed to logical way.

Life Challenge Number 6

You may be a perfectionist and set standards for yourself and
others that are impossible to meet. You may come off as very
arrogant, controlling and demanding to others. As a child
you may have seriously butted horns with several authority
figures. As an adult you may have many unsettling
relationships because of your refusal to recognize that
others are entitle to their point of view. Your rigidity
could lead to a disorder such as obsessive compulsiveness.

Life Challenge Number 7

This number has a great deal of trouble dealing with
emotions. During this time in your life you may feel as if
you have to repress your feelings in order to survive. As a
child this can lead to introversion, obsessiveness and a
complete retreat from reality. As an adult you may suffer
from chronically negative thoughts and express them through
constant complaining or criticism of others. Many sevens are
hypochondriacs or manifest disease as a result of suppressed
anger or grief.

Life Challenge Number 8

A number 8 challenge indicates a kind of shallowness and
greed. You might define yourself and others by appearance,
possessions and by the amount of money that they have. As a
child you may have been clever, manipulative and insistent on
having your own way. As an adult you might value the pursuit
of money, power and status to the exclusion of all other
things. This can cost you dearly in terms of relationships,
family and friends.

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How to Control Your 3-Year-Old's Aggressive Behavior

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Are you experiencing aggressive behavior in your 3-year-old? Is your 3-year-old calling all the shots? Do you feel exhausted and just don't know what else to do? If your answer is yes, and I bet it is... As you continue reading this article, you will learn how to end the power struggles, the aggressiveness and gain back control over your child behavior.

How to Control Your 3-Year-Old's Aggressive Behavior

Majority of children are not able recognize their own strength or even the full consequences of their actions; and in a world where they are often being told what to do, where to go and how to behave, it does not seem all that unreasonable that they may sometimes need to speak out and be heard.

-As you may already know, controlling feelings and emotions is a learned skill and can be very difficult to master in some adults, let alone children. For whatever reason your 3 yr old throw the outburst, one thing to always keep in mind is to not interact with power and anger of any sort or you will end up with a child that is very defensive and will fight whatever you ask him not to do.

-The good news is there are better ways to deal with this kind of aggressiveness that can create a win-win situation for both of you using proper child management methods. Nagging or punishing children for acting aggressively can make it more likely that they will act that way in the future. Imagine, if you will, a 3 yr old quietly piecing a puzzle together or even playing a video game. She/he has almost completed the puzzle/game but cannot get the final pieces/play to come together.

-Throughout this quiet half an hour the parent has been around but has said absolutely nothing. Nothing, that is until the child becomes obviously frustrated and throws the puzzle/game across the room and begins screaming or swearing loudly. At this point the parent intervenes by reprimanding the child and sending him/her to their room. You know where I am going with this right?

-It would appear that the parent has done everything appropriate in this situation, except for the fact that the only attention this child received during the time period was negative. If this is commonly the case, the child may begin to feel that any attention is better than no attention and as a result may continue to act out disruptively in daily activities.

-When dealing with aggressive children, it is worth the effort to praise even the smallest attempt at proper behavior, while paying very little if any attention to negative conduct. Praise can be a very strong motivator.

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How To Make A Woman Feel Special - Treat Her Like A Queen

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Every human being likes to feel good about themselves, and nothing can impress a woman more than a guy who can make them feel special and treat them like an ultimate queen. Each guy has his own special way to make his woman feel special but there are certain techniques which work on almost all women all the time. Read on to discover how you can make a woman feel special and give her the best treatment.

How To Make A Woman Feel Special - Treat Her Like A Queen

Let her know what she means- Tell her what she means to you and what difference she makes to your life. Let her know that you simply can't not imagine living the way you are without her. Make her feel wanted and special.

Treat her like a friend- Share everything with her and talk to her like a friend and discuss about your issues and dreams, where you need to get in life and where you want to take the relationship.

Be protective of her- Nothing can make a woman feel more special than a guy who would stick by her every step of the way and protect you. Women are mostly attracted towards guys who can make them feel comfortable and feel protected.

Respect her opinions- Once in a blue moon learn to listen to have and take her opinions as well. Make her feel that she is heard as well when it comes to decision making in the house.

Learn to say sorry- Most men don't realize how far it can take your relationship by using the simple word sorry. Most men make mistakes in a relationship and always fail to say a simple sorry or never shed their ego. Be man enough to admit to your mistakes and say sorry when you feel you are wrong.

Thank her- Thank her for her commitment and all the sacrifices she has made for you. It does not have to be material incentive every time. A simple thank you is good enough to make her feel special and wanted in the relationship.

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How to Control Emotions in 3 Simple Steps

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From the moment we were born, we've been a slave to our emotions. Babies cry, kids throw tantrums, teenagers rebel... However, there are times when we need to rein these feelings in and learn how to control emotions.

How to Control Emotions in 3 Simple Steps

After all, you can't exactly break down in tears whenever your boss disagrees with your idea. And you can't exactly hit other people either because they irritate you.

So how do you control emotions? Read on to find out.

Step 1: Be Prepared.

Sometimes, we feel a burst of emotion when we're caught unaware. When someone says something that we don't expect, we might cry, laugh or get really angry. This might be okay when you're among friends, but it's a different story altogether when you're in the middle of a board meeting.

One way on how to control emotions is to prepare yourself for what's ahead. For example, if you already know that you're meeting with an insufferable client, pace yourself. Tell yourself not to get hot-headed. Be the epitome of cool. Preparing yourself helps you control your emotions and not the other way around.

Step 2: Be Objective.

By separating yourself from the situation, you're able to look at things in a more logical perspective.

Let's say you're a journalist covering an earthquake tragedy where thousands of people died. If you want to learn how to control emotions long enough so you can do your job properly, detach yourself from the number of grieving people. Focus on the numbers and the science.

Learning how to control emotions might sound harsh and cold in a tragedy such as this; but sometimes, it's the only way you can do your job and report the incident properly.

Step 3: Be Patient.

Counting 1-10 won't help you if you're a pretty impatient person. Therefore, it's important that you work on that area of yourself. Being patient helps delay bursts of emotion that may not be appropriate for the situation. It gives your feelings time to subside and retreat.

One way to cultivate patience is meditation. This activity also helps you calm yourself down and quell strong waves of emotion.

Being able to feel emotions and express them is part of being human. There's nothing wrong with that. However, there are certain instances wherein we must learn how to control emotions. Besides, sudden bursts of emotions also lead us to doing things we might regret later on. In order to avoid any awkward situations, remember to be prepared, be objective and be patient.

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Our Best Hope - Great Teachers

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Without somebody who can make us feel safe, confident and competent in life, we are at a loss. We really need someone--a mature guide-- to help us realize our own dreams, and believe in us as well.

Our Best Hope - Great Teachers

Our teachers, some were our favorites when we were still in the grade school, others were our high school mentors... they have served us our guides in trudging the path towards success.

How many great teachers can you still remember? One, two or more... Well, with their good intentions during your crucial adolescent stage, they had been your saviors. Remember the time when your mother had been scolding you ( for the nth time ) in front of your classmates due to some misdemeanors... and your great teacher was there acting as if,-- he was your lawyer --defending you. Yes, of course, you could not forget this. And, whenever you've got a problem, you quickly remember him. Right?

Great as he is, you would also want to be like him. You also want to do great task to your fellow learners: be it in your workplace, school, organization, etc.

Such benevolence coming from him, would last a lifetime; giving you the strength to keep on doing good to your immediate family, friends, and --sometimes-- strangers. Yes, the desire to effect positive influence to others would definitely create a better world. A world where each one of us is vital influence to one another. Doing such thing could really give us positive feeling of fulfillment. A different high.

Blessed are those who know how to do good. They are our best hopes. Yes, the world needs them. We need best people to help us grow, go and glow.

We need to grow; in spirit, where emotion is controlled, especially negative ones. We need to go; taking challenges--facing problems. We need to glow; making others get something positive from us-- be it courage to keep on weathering the storm, the spirit to face trials and tribulations, etc.

Well, rejoice every time you encounter a test and your great teacher comes to mind in an instant. Apply the wisdom you have learned from him, and you'll in your way acing it out.

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A Simple Perspective That Fuels Starting Your Online Business

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Each and every day goes by with your thoughts on starting your online business, but what are you doing to bring that dream to reality? I know, I know there are obstacles, time constraints, fear, money is tight, I need more training, and on and on. Are these excuses real or just procrastination and avoidance raising their ugly heads? What if those obstacles were removed from the picture, what then? Would that do it for you? OK, I'll take them away for you right now with a simple perspective that fuels starting your online business.

A Simple Perspective That Fuels Starting Your Online Business

I want to share a wakeup call that I heard this morning from a colleague that will give you a quality perspective. While presented with an obstacle, that would further his online business, my colleague began mentally putting up excuses for why he couldn't do the task. He talked with his wife expressing how he was nervous, not confident, and stressing over the situation. Sound familiar to where you are with starting your online business? You're not alone. Speaking from a different perspective and situation, his wife brought to light the insignificants of his troubles when she painted the picture in front of her this morning.

His wife reminded him she was with their family friend at the hospital where she was just about to start her first treatment of chemotherapy for breast cancer. This 36 year old wife and mother, at the beginning of her family life, had real obstacles to face. Life and death, motherless children, limited time with those she loves, the quality of that time, battling cancer itself, successfully completing the treatments and beating cancer came to mind. How do your obstacles stand up in comparison? My colleague realized how trivial his obstacles really were and said to his wife you're right I can do this. I have created mountains out of mole hills letting my mind control my actions. No more he said and off he went to overcome with a simple perspective.

It's time to get very clear with your perspective before you miss the opportunities in front of you in life. Ask yourself are these obstacles real or just excuses? Would the young mother in the story above relish the opportunity to trade obstacles with you? Keep your perspective grounded and focus on solutions to these minor obstacles in the way of you reaching the online business you desire. Life is complicated enough without the creation of fictitious problems. I hope that this example gives you a simple perspective that fuels starting your online business.

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